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Negotiation

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consent

2.

BDSM

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Aftercare!

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I advise everyone to choose an alias when entering the world of BDSM, whether you go to a club or just go online, That way you have a level of anonymity that protects your privacy, in a what is still a small global community. Plus it helps you get into your role!

Don't assume someone's
BDSM role,
always ask.

ALIAS

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Never, Ever, Do Anything In BDSM Purely For Someone Else, Some Part Needs To Be For Yourself

NEVER

Advice

If you are looking for a dominant who wants a personal submissive, don't approach a professional expecting play without pay, unless they have a public request for such. You will be wasting your time. Pros have no shortage of people who want to submit to them that they know already to choose from.  They are only seeking paying clients. Instead go on FetLife and other forums where Dominants are seeking what you are offering. Better yet, go to a play party or event in your area.

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Let's not judge other's kink, there is enough judgement about BDSM, including about your kink.

PRACTICE

Remember it is called "Play", Have fun :-)

Everybody is welcome, there is no look or type to BDSM                    

TAKE CLAsses

Life is too short not to explore your fantasies!

Someone trying to
RUSH YOU
is a
Red Flag!
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